Where Have All the Women Gone?

I am young woman.

Full of hope for what God desires for me to fulfill as a wife and mother.

I often look into the faces of my children and wonder why God commands the young woman to stay home and raise our kids?

I don’t have a clue what I am doing other than learning from the mistakes I have made every day prior to this one.

I often struggle through my days hoping my children won’t pick up any of the selfish tendencies I have trouble breaking. At the same time the desire to be a wife and mother is as natural as anything else we do without giving too much thought to it. Then why does it have to be so hard? You would think something we so dearly long for would be a bit more natural than the desire itself.

But once again, ladies, the Lord has given us an escape to help pull us through the tough road of motherhood. They are the “Aged women” spoken about in Titus 2:3The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

That’s a big task and a lot of responsibility. If you read that passage prior to having a husband and children a second thought may not be given. But what of those of us who do? Who are struggling daily to be good wives and mothers, where do we turn? Of course God’s word is given to us in the form of the bible to be comfort to us but He has also given us You…aged woman…but where are you?

It seems to me not to many older woman I meet are anxious to correct me in areas such as how my intimacy, or lack thereof, will one day rear its ugly head and cause my marriage to suffer. Or how my deficiencies in patience with my children will cause unpleasant personality traits that may effect them throughout their whole life. Or how my gossiping about my neighbor will ruin my witness of Jesus’ light that is supposed to be shining through all my thoughts and actions. There are so many intimate details of a woman’s life, daily thought pattern, that are asked by God to correct us. Now this is no excuse for me to go about my business, uncorrected, but we don’t all have the voice of conviction breathing down our neck either.

If I could say this it would be Older Women where are you?

What are you thinking when you see a mother mistreat her children due to selfish immaturity? Or when you see a wife turn a cold shoulder to her dear husband in a secret desire to manipulate him? You must cringe at the sight. Besides you have been there. You have seen these hateful, selfish acts turn out dreadfully over and over again. You may feel you have no insight to share. But your lessons from lifelong mistakes are more helpful than you could ever imagine. The insight you could bring to stop a common mistake from recreating is priceless. Don’t underestimate what you hope you could bring to a young mother or what God has taught you through your own error.

To young mothers, as I am, don’t be so prideful.

We don’t know it all. Despite our upbringing, background and/or education; The spiritual things of God concerning raising Godly children in a Godly home within a Godly marriage is something we could never perfect with all the education this world could bring. But if we let down our prideful walls of selfishness we could let in the insight intended for our hearts and minds and bring us to be better mothers than we had so our children can be better mothers than we are.
If you are a mom you understand the inadequacies that I share with you. As long as we are on flesh on this earth we will struggle with this. But we don’t have to allow it to overcome us.

Look for a reason to allow the insight by an aged, Godly, woman to be shared with you if for no other reason than to be corrected in our ways.

Don’t get caught up in a downward spiral.

Stop it in its tracts by opening your heart to the Lord and the authority He has given to “aged” woman over us.